Just wanted to hook you guys up with another Democratic blog... with the elections coming up and all. This guys pretty good, give him a read.
On another note.... I'd like to say that life is just fine and fucking dandy, but I've got two huge issues weighing on my heart. I haven't heard from Duane in over a week. That's all I'm going to say about that issue, because I just don't have enough energy to put into it right now. I'm exhausted from everything else. But the issue I have no choice but to put energy into is my Alcoholic mother.
She's had a problem with alcohol and drugs my entire life, but the older my brother and I got, the more she chilled out with drugs.... and when she found out she was having anxiety attacks/ chemical imbalances, she chilled out on the drinking, too. To give you a bit of back story.... my mother and I used to fight like cats and dogs when she was drinking.... ever since she's stopped drinking SO much, we've gotten along great. NOW..... she's started making excuses to stay home so she can drink, she's started sneaking out of the house to go to bars and driving herself home drunk, she's threatened to leave her awesome man (and he's also threatening to leave), and she's gotten into a wreck while driving drunk to take her best friend to BUY ILLEGAL DRUGS......
I don't understand how much more seriously Jerry Springer you could be than that. Why is my mother less mature than me? Why am I the parent in my parental relationships? What the fuck is going on? Is this the twilight zone? because doo doo doo doo can't possibly describe the shittiness I feel from this. 24 year old women should not have to worry about whether their mother is going to go out and kill someone driving drunk.... it should be the fucking other way around!!!
Okay, enough of the bitchfest. I've tried to talk her into meetings.... I've tried to spend time with her to cure her "boredom" (reason for drinking, apparently), and between Gary and I, we can't figure out how to make her drop the fucking bottle, again. If you have suggestions... please suggest away. I need some help... I can't handle this shit by myself anymore.
Alcoholics Anonymous
Drunk Driver Stats
Effects of Alcohol on the Brain
My best friend from grad school's mother is an alcoholic. She'd be more than happy to talk to you and/or listen to you vent. She's dealt with this her entire life, so I'd be more than happy to pass her along to you.
Her blog address is http://fishgoddess.blogspot.com
If you want her email or phone number, just email me.
p.s. Sorry I haven't gotten around to writing you back. I'll get on that today.
Posted by: Heather at October 10, 2004 03:24 PMI am so sorry about all of this. Seeing as though my mother is also a drunk raising 3 young teens, I know how you feel. Its helpless, but even after 23 years of dealing with this behavior...I still refuse to believe it is HOPELESS! I honestly do not have the right advice to give you because if I did my mom wouldnt be that way too....but stick by her and dont give up, because when it gets that bad the best thing you can be is a friend. If everyone deserts her she might not pull through it on her own. You may already be helping more than you believe. Because trust me it could be worse...and Im not saying that to be demeaning. I know its bad...and I wont belittle it, but it could get worse. Try and help her not let that happen. The natural order of life is our parents are supposed to take care of us when were not able to(when we are little), and as we get older...we take care of them. Unfortunately weve been the parents to our parents our whole lives....but we do it because we love them.
Posted by: Natalie at October 11, 2004 06:44 PMHey take it from an alcoholic, she won't change unless she does it. But don't leave her side because you are creating a balance in her mind. Don't worry about trying to help her just be there and that can prevent a huge downward spiral. Chica saved my life by doing just that.
Posted by: Francoamerica at October 12, 2004 10:09 AMmichelle, i am heather's best friend from grad school. hello.
k, enough cornyness. my mom is an alcoholic, was sober for 3 and half years and fell off the wagon a year ago. my dad is also an addict although not with alcohol. he hasn't had a sober conversation with me in going on 11 yrs. i started therapy last week. literally. let's chat.
Posted by: amber at October 15, 2004 01:01 PM